The insult sometimes induces you to do what you absolutely patch sobstvennichestva? Now you do not want. But till last moment you can change all. As it was made by Rita
ak strongly I have become angry! No, we with Aleshej have not simply quarrelled, we have wildly rowed. Because I have learnt all, that it with someone lighted on that party where I could not go. Well, can, and the truth of anything serious. And besides he to me about it has told. But, lines as to me it is insulting! After all I love this fool. And it to me in the answer: — And I love you. But me was so sadly and boringly without you. I only have a little vanished. I did not sleep with this maiden, I so, slightly potusil with it. Yes it is fine, I, in general, could reconcile, likely, to it with all. As he has repented. But to state the relation should. Or he hoped, what I and so to it will lower at once it, or, can, he expected, what I will be delighted?
We with Aleshej, generally, seldom quarrel. To us it is good together. We do not strain, that our relations were such, and we do not work over them, we do not assort each detail. At us love. Here already half a year.
I also cannot recollect, how I lived to it. Well, lived somehow, certainly, and even with boys met. But so, anything serious. My parents — people strict. Not so strict that I did not go to the cinema and on dances with gentlemen, but so that I till nineteen years the girl remained. No, parents on me did not press. Simply mum explained to me, that the first night happens only one in a life. Also it is impossible to present it to whom has got. Without love and a kiss to present it is a pity. In general, it is so much times with me these talks were given, that I have believed in it on all hundred. Also searched for the love. And has then got acquainted with Aleshikom, and all became correct in my life. I needed all some weeks to understand, that it is that person whom I waited. If not for
All remained life for the first night of love — it is exact! We have agreed, that it happens in a New Year's eve, his parents have already planned for a long time to leave for holidays with friends in boarding house. And here till January, first remains three weeks and as all has turned.
At first I rushed along the street, not assorting road, not noticing a cold. The rage and insult adjusted me, and I all went, went, while definitively have not stiffened. And then I have come into cafe to drink to tea and to think, that to me to do further. My order yet have not brought, as the little table had it. Nice, certainly, eyes cat's. At once it is visible, it is interested, the natural scent prompts — without serious intentions. Easier to get acquainted, chat, drink and, maybe, it is pleasant to spend evening. And since morning to say goodbye and recollect each other in the long winter evenings, with a smile, as a small adventure. I such have much seen, at me on them the eye is swept together, usually at once with a kind smile otshivala them. I not the lover of adventures quickly, I the romanticist. But here today it was suddenly thought: " Let's make even the account. Let will be 1:1 ". It not the revenge, is simple arithmetics. In general, I not only have allowed this type to sit down, but have allowed to give to drink also myself mulled wine, and then and my favourite strawberry" Margarita ". To speak to us especially there was nothing, it was necessary to kiss only. It is necessary to admit, it kissed well, but nevertheless not how Aleshik. The fourth glass has become empty, the guy has suggested to be aired, and" is casual "we have appeared near to its house. I have thought:" And line it, with our dream, with my dream which you were ready to carry out, favourite. You have betrayed all. You speak, love not predpo -
Where a limit to desires?
We hope, that our texts will help you to learn to refuse, and also to learn to follow the requirements and desires. Do not forget only, that desires of one person come to an end there where desires begin
Another. In a word, offend nobody in vain. And still - Write to us how you have told once "is not present", and it was from your party an act. Your story, probably, will lay down in a basis of our next history.
We also will check up it. The guy though also the fan of easy extraction, behaved quite on-dzhentlmenski. Did not snatch directly in doors, and opposite, has offered wines, has put pleasant music. In general, has created atmosphere. And, can, it and has saved me from the biggest nonsense in my life. We drank wine, it somehow unostentatiously joked, and as unostentatiously kissed, and a shirt on me has unbuttoned as though between times. And here by radio our song has played. Ours with Aleshej a song. I have recollected it as we the first time danced under this melody as it the first time has told I "love", and the main thing as we dreamt and planned. And I have burst into tears. The guy has got a fright. They, generally, do not take out some female tears. Could and become angry. And I have told:
— Forgive, I will go, for me wait.
— How so? — He was surprised, — all only begins, and we so well sat. Give, be not foolish, go here, the child.
From "child" me has distorted.
— No. Forgive, I have made nonsense, having come here. You very beautiful, lovely guy, and you and the truth have liked me, but I have the favourite person most favourite and native on all this world. And I cannot betray it.
Also has left. At night, in a cold to the favourite.
Money almost was not, but, looking in my desperate eyes, the driver from me and has not demanded them. I knew, that Leshinyh parents of the house are not present today, and peered into dark windows. He already sleeps? Or it is not present the house? And can, he too has decided to revenge me-us silly and so? I rang at a door, as the madwoman. It has opened, for -
AT ME IS
THE FAVOURITE
THE PERSON,
I CAN NOT BETRAY IT
slannyj and frightened. And, having seen me, all has understood. He always understands all correctly, mine Alesha. I and have not told to it, what hardly was have not changed. What for to do to painfully favourite person? After all slightly it is not considered, the truth? Besides we that night at all did not have time for conversations. And for New year to wait it was not necessary.
In the morning I have understood, that it is the person not only for the first night, but also for all remained life. And still I have understood, that if I sometime have a daughter, I will necessarily tell to it this history. And at the same time I will advise not to drink more than three cocktails for time, to study firmly to speak "is not present" and to search for the love, certainly.

At home to you that you distribute all successively dolls got, books, | and later felt-tip pens, perevodilki, scarfs, varezhki, disks, ear-phones... Now at you it is always full of affairs — and almost all not yours. You promise all to all, because after all it is impossible to tell "are not present". As a result of you are in time nothing. You often feel guilty because always there are people who can reproach you with idle talk. From time to time you spit on all and you lay down on a bottom: let those to whom you should, search for you. They search, swear, angry. You wait for the moment to emerge and talk nineteen to the dozen because after all it is necessary to be justified somehow. And then all begins at first...
Why so it has turned out?
Once davnym for a long time when you were absolutely still a crumb, it was possible to adults very firmly vdolbit in your lovely head two false trues. The first: "Mum (the daddy, the grandmother, the teacher, the teacher) knows better. Your personal opinion and your feelings interest nobody". Naive adults hoped, that you will for ever keep belief in them is and only — immutable authority. Probably, they simply did not guess, that everything to that you have learnt in relations with them, remains with you for ever. They have learnt you to obey and not to trust themselves — and you are obedient obeyed at first them, and then almost everyone who will appear nearby. The second false true in execution of the kind adults, wishing to you is exclusively kind, sounded approximately so: " Whether yes you are not enough of that want? Your desires interest nobody ". So these nice people tried to accustom you to thought, what not all in this world depends on you. But you heard not that they wished to tell, and that really spoke. And now own requirements you consider in the latest turn.
Adults who were with you nearby, long convinced you that you in itself are not worthy not only love and admiration, but also even unpretentious liking. And you to deserve though any indulgence from people, it is necessary to please them.
And still many adult people who met to you on a way, and live, not trusting in the feelings, forces, not trusting the reason and including appeasable character the main female virtue.
What occurs in your life?
• You constantly feel fault. Especially, when casually you do that you want.
• You are very easy for persuading, convincing and raspropagandirovat — therefore you not only parents, but also all remarkably operate, to whom not laziness: girlfriends, friends, bojfren-dy, casual fellow travellers in a train, relatives and even sellers in shop.
• it is possible, in the company you have a reputation for the girl who never refuses to guys about what they it have asked. And not because you thirst for it of sexual adventures, simply you have got used, that another's desires it is much more important than yours.
• But also it is probable, that you, on the contrary, very much
skovanna in dialogue with an opposite sex because you can not understand at all where their desires come to an end and you begin.
• You constantly do something for someone and for someone — any can get rid on you of the cares and duties.
• You often enough say lies, because promise too much.
How with it to be?
Learn simple reception: before to agree with someone's offer or opinion, brake and take a time-out. Do not speak "is not present", time it for you so is difficult, but tell: "I should think. Time is necessary to me to answer".
Remember one simple thing: it is impossible to please all. It is not necessary and try. Remember the second simple thing: each live being cares first of all of the interests. You — a live being. And you should care of yourself.
Here one more important vital supervision: people, especially those who likes to shift on trouble-free affairs, very easy concern refusals. But also do not test gratitude to those who always performs for them work. Now give on points.
The first I "want"
Or not the first it is unimportant. Many girls, probably, and you, are lost, when young men start to insist on sex. Especially, when it is a question of first time. Guys — masters to find various arguments, proving, that you should make it. They in detail and well explain to you about that presently it is not accepted to refuse, that all your girlfriends for a long time already, and you still, and, time you do not wish to be engaged with it love, means, you diffident and on the priest at you a cellulitis. And still they can take offence and threaten with rupture. It is all — powder for brains and noodles for your innocent ears.
If still anybody did not speak it to you, know: blackmail — business the last. And the guy who achieves from the girl of sex by means of a phrase: "Differently we will leave you", — is not worthy not that sex, and and a simple sight in its party. Now about other arguments. You after all try to answer somehow them, the truth? But it after all does not add to you desire? You "is not present" in this case does not require explanations and theoretical substantiations. Sex demands the mutual consent of the parties. Also I "do not want" in this case quite sufficient substantiation.
Also do not forget about that the woman pair of millenia all man's whims diligently accustomed to carry out, without dependence from its desire. And the feeling of fault which arises when you refuse to the guy, is greetings from far great-great-grandmothers. It it was recommended to be afraid at first of the father, and then the husband and not to contradict them under any conditions. It, instead of you.
In a related way
You have parents, sisters and brothers, and each of them considers, that by right a sort -
stva can quite give to your the most different commissions. You all time take away someone's documents, work at half price in firm which your aunt operates, and regularly result from a garden of the nephew.
You the Chip and Dejl for all family. All love you, all appreciate also all maintain. It is called "to be the good daughter, sister, the niece and the grand daughter". But it is necessary to you to tell only time, that you are occupied today and cannot take a walk with an uncle's dog as on your head the most insulting charges in egoism, in callousness are strewed, that you do not love the family and the native. Relatives — virtuosos of manipulations with love. Do not allow itself to confuse! Remember: the love to a family and native does not mean full submission of the life to their interests. On light there are a lot of prophetic which for you in one thousand times it is more important, than someone's reports and the dogs left without supervision. For example, your love, your creativity, your career, your study. Your health and your rest, eventually. Help, but not to the detriment of itself. So that it brought to you pleasure.
Friendship friendship
If at you it is full of friends to whom your help, but as soon as at you a problem, it appears is always necessary that there is almost nobody who could incur a part of your cares it means the following: your friends remorselessly use your kindness. And with it it is time to finish. They, the cook and relatives, will terribly be surprised, when for the first time will hear refusal on the next request. And even will become angry, and, maybe, even any insulting words will tell. Among them will get such which will cease to consider you as the friend. It is sad, but the fact: these people maintained you, but were not on friendly terms with you. The same who remain, require not only your non-failure operation, but also in your dialogue. They will get used to your new style of a life and even will start you to respect more.
As the colleague to the colleague
Here where the full open space for activity is given to fans of a freebie! In any collective there is a couple of experts to dump the work on others. You learn them literally on a voice: they like to show to beginners "where at us kitchen and a smoking-room", and in gratitude for their "magnanimity" ask about small service from the list of the official duties. Yes that a sin to conceal: any of us wishes to get rid any tiresome the businessman to the one who is ready to substitute a back. And you, time you so do not like to refuse and feel guilty each time when you do it, it is useful horoshenechko to study, in detail, the list of that you should do, and than can neglect. All the rest is already your personal charity. I do not know, whether it is necessary to you, because, if on work there is time to fulfil another's duties, maybe, it is necessary to change work? Such office obviously long will not stretch.